First Impressions
A wedding story about who actually gets in the door.
Picture this: you're waiting outside at night for someone to show up so a party can start. You don't know exactly when they're coming — could be nine o'clock, could be two in the morning. All you know is when they show up, the celebration starts immediately, and if you're not ready, you get left in the dark. Literally.
That's the picture Jesus paints in Matthew 25. Ten young women are waiting for a bridegroom to arrive so a wedding celebration can begin. All ten have lamps. All ten are invited. All ten fall asleep waiting because the groom takes longer than expected. But when the cry finally goes up at midnight — "Here he comes!" — only five of them are actually ready. The other five have lamps, but no oil to keep them burning. By the time they scramble to find some, the door to the party is shut. Locked. Done.
That's a hard ending for a story Jesus tells. But here's what I want you to notice before anything else: everybody in this story wanted to be at the party. Nobody here thinks, "Eh, I'll pass on the wedding feast." The five who got locked out weren't outsiders who never cared about the bridegroom. They showed up. They brought lamps. They just weren't actually ready when it mattered.
This past Sunday's message walked through a huge chunk of Matthew — signs, warnings, the "wars and rumors of wars" kind of stuff people love to obsess over. But right at the end of all that, Jesus tells this one short story, and it's like he's saying, "Okay, here's the point I actually want you to walk away with." Not a chart. Not a timeline. Just this: be ready. Know me. Don't assume you're in just because you showed up.
Here's the good news hiding inside this hard story, though. Right now, today, the invitation is still open. Nobody has to scramble at the last minute if they get close to Jesus now. The door isn't shut yet. That's the whole point of a study like this one — not to make you anxious about missing something, but to help you actually get ready, on purpose, this week.
So as you start, don't come at this like you're trying to solve a puzzle or predict a date. Come at it like someone standing outside a party that's still letting people in. What would it look like to actually be ready — not just present, not just familiar with the story, but ready?
Sit with this
- 1When you hear the phrase 'be ready,' what's the first thing that comes to mind — excitement, guilt, confusion, or something else? Why do you think that's your reaction?
Journal prompt
Write about a time you showed up somewhere but weren't actually prepared for what happened once you got there. What did that feel like? How is that similar to or different from how you'd describe your relationship with Jesus right now?